Yes, India needs to be congratulated because justice is a basic fundamental right and simply because some middle class wannabes might be better at networking than others is no reason why justice may be denied to some. I accept your congratulatory message with grace and thank you for it. Also, I find it difficult to refrain from responding to a message that ends with Jai Hind as I too have fauji roots.
Allow me to introduce myself. I am also from a middle class family. I have an elder brother whom I adored. Our parents loved both of us equally. My brother was highly qualified and well settled in a highly paying job while I was preparing for UPSC when my brother got married and then suddenly it was as if the sky had fallen on our heads. It was an arranged marriage where all calculations were done in their mind about him being a single son and that my dad earned a handsome pension so they would not be dependent on my brother.
We believed in genuine equality so the marriage was a very simple one in which only 20 close relatives attended from our side whereas theirs were around thrice in number, but the expenses were shared equally.
Within a week of marriage, systems were put in place where none of us were allowed to communicate with my brother directly. If he dared to exchange pleasantries with us, or any guest to the house, it would amount to a scene.
Within a month of marriage, my brother was forced to leave his job as his wife wanted him to get into business. All of my parents’ savings were invested into the business which was started in her name and the work was done by my brother. She gave an ultimatum that I should be married off as “girls don’t find suitable matches after a certain age.”
She decided who I should marry and yelled so much at my parents who tried to protest about this injustice that I myself sacrificed my life and my career to allow peace to prevail at home. My husband is an aggressive and an abusive man but thankfully my mother-in-law was an angel so I had some support while she was alive. Let me not go into my sob story here but sufficient it is to say here that my life has not been easy.
The misery of my parents only increased after my departure. Now the situation was something like this. The business was in her name. My parents’ hard earned money had been used for the same. Apart from my father’s pension, there was no other source of income. My brother did all the work for their business but all the money went into her account.
Her parents shifted from their rented accommodation to my parents’ house where I was no longer invited or welcomed or encouraged. Her younger sister was also married with the same money from the business in a lavish ceremony, whereas I had been married off in a court. Till my mother could sustain, she used to help in the household work but after she was in poor health, she was literally left to die.
My brother was abused and insulted everyday as he was not mean to his own mother. After my mother died or rather, was killed with neglect, her wrath fell upon my brother, who is still treated more like a domestic help by her and her parents. My father was kept in isolation but always given proper food because a retired officer is a source of handsome pension. Finally he died of loneliness.
One might ask what kind of wimps are my family to have endured this, but the point I am trying to get across is that those middle class parents of my darling sister-in-law were aware of what their middle class daughter was doing and actively encouraged it. In their case, I could understand as they don’t have a son and could not empathise with those who do.
However, you do have a son. Had Showik’s girlfriend isolated him from you, got him addicted to drugs, lived off his money, bad mouthed you, alleged that Rhea had groped her…. etc etc – How would you have felt?
Lt. Col Chakraborty, I do have the [email protected] to write this with my name but am writing this anonymously, as I don’t want my brother to suffer more. After my parents, she now ill- treats him. He is dependent on her for his own money. The house of my parents has been transferred in her name. I signed off my share in my bhai’s favour and have no clue how it went in hers.
I shall end with some questions about your middle class morality:
What happened to your middle class morality:
When your daughter was living in with someone in the same city where you reside?
When you made no attempt to get acquainted with his family members & background before allowing her to live with him?
When ALL of you lived off his money?
When both your daughter and son were somehow involved in drugs?
When she incited disaffection from his family?
When she administered him drugs/ medicines without his knowledge and possibly with yours?
When she is now bad mouthing a dead man (we don’t know whether he died of suicide or was murdered) who can’t defend himself and defaming his family?
Wonder why middle class wannabe families tutor their daughters to wreck lives of hard working, honest men by using and abusing them?
Why do women’s rights in your so called middle class involve rights of only wives and girlfriends? Aren’t sisters and mothers women too?
No Col. Sahib – Don’t hide your crimes behind your middle class background. I come from a middle class family and am proud of it. My entire clan was ruined by a girl who is also a parasite like your middle class daughter and I pray that these kind of offences become cognizable and the court makes an example of your daughter, so that many lives can be saved.